"You couldn’t tell me this THREE MONTHS ago?": Employee “dates” fellow coworker but gets mad when she ends it over him not liking dogs - then he starts gossiping to her friends as petty revenge

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    He wanted me to get rid of my dogs after only dating for 3 months! I ended it, quickly.

    "Have you ever thought of not having dogs or getting rid of them?"
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    Let's start at the beginning, 3 months ago we were introduced through mutual work friends. We all work for the same company, just not in the same department(s). Playing cards at one of their houses, and really hit it off. That night I said I was
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    going to go home and let my dogs out and he said "Oh, you have dogs?", thinking nothing of it I told him, yes, 3 of them! He asked for my number, I obliged, he was cute and pretty decent. Doesn't hurt to at least get to know him.
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    Fast forward to texting every day, talking in passing at work, going out in the evenings sometimes, but always home to our respective houses. Just seeing each other, casually. Finally getting to the point where we're going out more,
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    and I'm going to his house more. He hasn't come to mine yet, at this point and I'm starting to wonder why. So I put a little bit of pressure on him "I would really like to have you over for dinner and a movie" and he agreed.
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    We're at my house, dinner went great but he fidgets a lot and we sit down to watch a movie, I ask if he's okay and he says "I'm just really not comfortable, I don't like dogs". My response was "WAIT, STOP, WHAT? You couldn't tell me this THREE MONTHS ago?" and he says to
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    me "Well, I wanted to see how things would go between us and I'm hoping that we could keep seeing the each other, have you ever thought of not having dogs or getting rid of them?"
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    I stared, blankly and eventually told him "No, and I think if you're that uncomfortable, you should leave.". He did. I watched the movie, by myself, but the situation continued to bother me, I called him the next morning and told him this isn't going to work out and I don't want to talk for a while.
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    He's been blowing up my phone, and worse yet, my WORK email and telling our friends that I over-reacted and am being unreasonable. My dogs are 13, 11 and 9 and I've them about as long, through moving, my divorce, job changes, every hiking and
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    camping trips, summers at the lake. They're always with me, I enjoy their quiet company, play time, just the peace of being around them. I wouldn't give that up for literally any human in the world, and certainly not after 3 months.
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    [deleted] NOR, report him to HR for using your work email to har s you. Get him fired for dragging his personal life into your work life. Any friends siding with him are not your friends. Block him on everything.
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    pbvga That's basically like asking someone to put their kids up for adoption because they don't like children. Absurd.
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    Whats_His_Name987 NOR but this is why you never date someone that works at the same company as you.
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    AlphaBravo69 3 dogs is a lot. But he should have made that clear from the jump
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    ICE_800709 bbwwahahahah!!!! If your "friends" side with him, they are your friends and this situation helped w d people out your life. This is a good situation. Just block and move on.
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    I say this as I have three, and adding more because my exes aren't able to keep theirs lol. Dogs/pets over humans...ALLLL DAY!!!
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    Ok-Cardiologist8651 What if he doesn't like children? Would they have to 'go'? Doesn't care for your furniture? Thinks your eyes are the wrong colour? Amazing that he is still single and still out there vetting women who are gullible enough to change. their lives so that he is completely 'comfortable.
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    Don't ask us here if you are overreacting. Ask the dogs. Ask them if they feel comfortable about the idea of being re- homed. Or alternatively "Paws up who thinks 'Dwight' should go
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    play in traffic? No, just one paw each. Yes there will be cookies later but right now we're voting. No barking or growling! This is serious and no one gets to bite 'Dwight', we are just taking a poll."
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    kvetc... NOR. I remember when I started dating again after divorcing my a sive ex I literally listed on my dating profile to not bother talking to me if they were allergic to cats or didn't like them because I had three! It is tbh absolutely bizarre he would expect you to just give up your senior dogs
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    Ornery_Old_Dude Not overreacting. Anyone who would ask if you ever thought about getting rid of your dogs isn't a good fit for you or anyone who has dogs. Personally, the guy is a real POS to even suggest the idea of getting rid of your
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    dogs in order to be with him, which is what he was inferring. Tell your friends the guy is aj and you don't want anything to do with him. And if he keeps blowing up your work e-mail report him to HR for hassment. That should put it to and end.
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    NeeliSilverleaf NOR. If he doesn't want to date someone with dogs he needs to date someone who doesn't have dogs, not try to get someone who has dogs to re-home them. What would he expect you to change for him next?
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    Leather Objective641 nor/ he knew you had dogs from the start, he wants to see if you'll chose him over your dogs, which is ridiculous. red flag you want to avoid. props for ending the situation before it got out of hand.

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